This may be a controversial topic and I don’t really know how this will be taken. I am hoping the way I intend this to be understood is how it actually comes across.
I think I first started to really think about this topic when I heard Meghan Trainors ‘All about that bass’ as it made me think well hang on – telling ‘skinny bitches’ that boys will like them more if they’re bigger is just as bad as telling fat girls that guy’s won’t look twice unless you lose a stone! Myself and my girls often talk about this and we always have an interesting debate.
As a slim person, I get a LOT of comments on my appearance. When I say, a LOT I really do mean A LOT. People think that because I’m skinny, they can comment on my size, shape, weight etc. One of the most common questions I get is – “do you ever eat?” ERM. YES I FRIGGING DO. My close friends and family will tell you that I bloomin’ eat! All the time! The problem I have with that question is that if I was to go up to someone who is a little overweight and said: “Do you ever not eat” I would be kicked out of town. I would literally never hear the end of it. Some people – before they’ve even said hello- go “oh hi, Emma, you’re still not eating much then?” WHAT. THE. FUCK. (Excuse the language but I feel pretty strongly about this).
Another one is: “You look really ill, are you okay, have you been looking after yourself?” For the most part, it is people who genuinely seem to care about me and my welfare- but for goodness sake! Just because I am thin does not mean I’m ill or I just don’t know how to look after myself…
Society is so warped by the fear of saying the ‘f’ word that they think it’s actually not offensive to comment on how slim somebody is. I feel very strongly that these double standards shouldn’t be accepted and that people should think before commenting on or making assumptions about a persons body whether they’re overweight or underweight. The huge debate on body shaming and negative body image is purely focused on making sure young girls don’t feel pressure to be thin and shouldn’t let anyone tell them that they aren’t beautiful but no one ever talks about the girls who are ridiculed and bullied for being skinny and I feel like it needs to be addressed.
I would also like to point out that ‘skinny’ does not equate to ‘eating disorder’. I don’t know about you but the amount of times I have been asked about having an eating disorder is actually becoming a joke. I used to get kids from school come up to me and saying ‘so and so said you were anorexic’. It became so ridiculous at one point that even my Doctor asked me if I was having problems with eating , due to the fact that I suffer with both anxiety and emetophobia (but those are for another post).
One – I wasn’t and Two- Even if I was, why the hell is it anyone’s business to comment? I’ve known people who have suffered incredibly from an eating disorder and I don’t like the term being thrown around like it’s nothing and people making assumptions about it.
I hope I made some valid points here and this didn’t come across purely as a rant!
Let me know if you’ve ever had an experience like this and how you felt about it, I think this happens a lot more frequently than anyone would like to admit.